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Self Esteem and Women
She walked into the room wearing a long, shimmering
silver gown, sexy mules peeking out at the bottom, her onyx
colored hair held up by a tortoise shell comb, with ringlets
cascading, softly framing her beautiful face.
Candles lit, the atmosphere romantic, her skin
glistened like soft velvet: when he saw her, he gasped but
for a moment, for she took his breath away.
Walking towards her, love emanating from his
sensual dark eyes, he took her hand and twirled her around
like a ballerina as they stood facing a long, antique mirror…both
their reflections looking back at them…he marveled at her
voluptuousness and told her how sexy and beautiful she was
and how he was the happiest man alive since that afternoon,
since their elopement.
She did not quite see the same thing. Ignoring
her face, the radiance that glow which was captured in the
mirror…..she could not get past the flesh she saw hanging
over the strap of her gown….like oversized buns, soft and
mushy. But what she feared most in the instant was him seeing
her…fully naked for the first time.
While they dated, she hid herself well with
lingerie and made sure the lights were always out, she laid
a certain way to make her belly flatter, making sure to wake
up earlier than he did and put on a robe so he had never truly
seen her before this evening.
2 people with 2 very different views. How long
before she fills his head with her insecurities and he too,
will start to see her differently…not because he wants to,
but he will start to see her as she sees herself.
She has a negative body image, due to low self
esteem…they are intertwined
Self esteem is how “you” feel about yourself,
not what others think. Your self esteem is more than likely
a result of years of conditioning, insults never forgot how
you’ve compared yourself to others whether in the real world
or those figures grazing the fashion pages.
Beauty comes in a multitude of colors, sizes,
shapes and ages and is a state of mind. It is what you believe,
so before embarking on your next diet let me say this: We
need to put our minds on a “diet” to rid ourselves of the
“Negative talk” and replace it with “Positive Talk”. To truly
believe you are: intelligent, beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, attractive,
bodacious and worth living the life you deserve and desire.
The past no longer has any power over you!
A few tips: For all the negative conditioning
over the years, go to a relaxed area of your home, relax,
light a candle, make an ambiance that fills you with serenity….Take
a pen and paper and write all the things that have hurt you,
the scenarios, people, insults, turn it into a letter or point
form, whatever you want, now the best part ? Take what you’ve
written and burn it! Envision that the hurt and pain is burning
with those flames, FOREVER! This may take several sessions,
but I promise it works…forgiveness is one of the first steps
to being an enlightened/voluptuous woman!
Write down 5 things that are positive about
what you look like….now write down 5 things that are positive
about who you are…focus on those 10 things for the next few
weeks, write them down, make it a mantra, repeat it several
times a day, post it on your fridge as a reminder….this alone
will enable you to begin your journey to a more positive you.
It pains me to hear women say, “I’ll start dating
when….” “I’ll change jobs when….” Or “my life will be so much
better when….” When what? You lose weight? You are putting
yourself and your life on hold for a number that is going
down on a scale? You are giving up your power to a number.
If you desire to eat better for health reasons, great…by all
means we all want to be healthier and able to enjoy life…however,
to constantly be putting your life on “hold” until you become
a “magic” number…..is not the way to live, we only this ride
around the merry go round called “life” once so make it a
ride that you can enjoy and be proud of!
I have lived 90% of my life as a Rubenesque,
voluptuous woman I can say that at the age of 42 I have never
felt more beautiful! Why? Because I love who I have become
over the years, for I have gained wisdom, experience and maturity…and
a love for the most important person in my life: myself!
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About the Author:
Terri Giosia, motivational speaker, lifestyles-singles coach
and writer, whose vision, passion and spirit will captivate
and motivate you to be the "best" you can be! An ongoing student
of human behavior; previous to finding my niche I was paving
the path to this career, which includes over 20 years in training,
business development, consulting, and management. Enhance
and enrich your life today!
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